To be...or not to be?

So a while back I wrote about how double standards made it hard for a girl to get her freak on outside of a relationship without looking like a skeeze. (Good Girl Gone Bad?) Yea, unfortunately I still haven't solved that problem, but I'm working on it...along with the oil spill in the gulf and the world economic crisis. But I did get a lot of feedback on that post and of course someone suggested that perhaps having a "Friend with benefits" (FWB) could be the solution to this horrible problem plaguing single ladies everywhere. Its pretty much one of the most hotly debated topics ever. Does it work? Does it not work? Doesn't someone always get hurt? I quickly dismissed that possibility citing the possibility of developing feelings for that person and blah blah blah. I mean, I get infatuated with a person so easily it should be criminal. Luckily for me though, I get over it as quickly as it starts (I have boy ADD). I've ALWAYS thought having a FWB was a terrible terrible TERRIBLE idea! But now...I think I've had a change of heart. Don't ask me why (because I wont tell you) but now I'm beginning to think that this is a valid solution. Yes, there is the possibility of developing feelings, but in certain circumstances...a FWB can be your best friend. I think the most important part is to be honest with this person (cliche I know) but it really helps when both people are on the same page. The last thing I need is a dude seeing me out with another guy and going completely ape sh*t because he thought I was his effin soul mate. Nope! As long as both people know whats up...this awkward situation can be avoided. Another thing that helps is if your FWB is not exactly apart of your close circle of friends. You don't need to constantly run into them, especially if you are at a party trying to mac on someone else. Trying to keep a relationship like that is damn near impossible when they are always around...you minus well date them. Now...one of the most important parts of having a successful FWB relationship (to me at least) is to put a time limit on your interaction. If you are having sex with someone for like a year there's a greater chance that you will end up developing feelings for them as opposed to if its a summer fling that only lasts 3 months. Pretty much after the 3 month mark...you are dating...and that's real. This type of relationship is definitely not for everyone. It takes a lot to do something so intimate, like sex, with another person for an extended period of time and not feel anything. If you don't feel a little something...check your pulse because you might be dead...legit. So if you are the jealous, possessive, or overly emotional type of chick that has her entire wedding planned out already even though she doesn't have a man...you might want to steer clear of this. And if you a sensitive ass n*gga who enjoys long walks on the beach, puppies and butterflies...this might not be for you. My advice...know what you are getting yourself into, because nothing stings quite like unrequited love.