Anyway you slice it...break ups suck big hairy balls. Whether he cheated on you with your sister or you guys just drifted apart..there is a certain amount of pain that everyone is going to have to go through when they decide to end a relationship. It really doesn't matter if it was two months or 10 years...its gonna sting a little. So you've broken up with someone and your single...what now? Society (and by society I mean stupid romantic comedies) dictate that we must cry alot and consume massive amounts of ice cream. Bleh...crying makes me uncomfortable and I'm lactose intolerant. Its really hard to get over someone you cared about...or better yet loved. I don't think I've quite figured it out yet...but I can tell you what not to do...
1. DO NOT go out and hook up with someone immediately after your break up! Whoever came up with the phrase "The quickest way to get over someone is to get under another" is a f*ckin idiot...and a slutty idiot at that. It honestly doesn't help you get over anything...its just gonna add to the sh*t that you are already dealing with. And I'm pretty sure the person you hook up with isn't going to appreciate you crying all over them while you talk about your ex. And please don't do this while you are intoxicated. As much as your friends will try to get you to go out and get wasted to make you feel better....resist with every bone in your body.
2. DO NOT pretend like everything is ok. If you feel like crying...please...cry. You can try to pretend like you are dealing with everything perfectly fine and that you don't really care, but be careful because one day you could be sitting on the bus on your way to campus and a John Legend song will come on your mp3 player...and you might awkwardly burst into tears. Yea...people don't respond well to the girl sobbing on the bus. It would have been much better if you just cried at home. So cry...scream if you must...just don't hold it in.
3.DO NOT hook up with your ex. This one may seem very tempting. A little bit after you break up with someone and the initial anger subsides...you start remembering all the good times you shared instead of all the reasons that led to your break up. At this point you may feel lonely and you start to think that maybe no one will ever get your crazy sense of humor quite like him, or that no one else will find the fact that you cant brush you teeth without getting toothpaste in your hair as cute as he does. Yea...this too shall pass...so keep your damn pants on and legs shut! You will regret it because it will only confuse the hell out of you.
4. DO NOT lock yourself in your room. I know I said its okay to be sad and cry, but really the worst thing you can do is lock yourself away in your room and hide under your covers. While I wouldn't suggest any hardcore partying, its a good idea to do something fun like go shopping or hang out with your friends. Laying in the dark, and listening to sad love songs on repeat while neglecting your classes and extracurriculars is only going to make things worst when you do decide to come out of your haze of patheticness. So open the blinds, put away he Kleenex, and take your ass to class.
5. DO NOT beat yourself up for not being able to get over someone quickly enough. Face it...there is a reason you were with that person in the first place, even if it didn't really work out the way you planned. So if you still find yourself missing them or thinking about them don't freak out. Like all good things (wine, cheese, having sex ) it will get so much better in time. There's no rule that says if you were with someone a year you should be over them in some specific amount of time. Nope...everyone heals at their own pace...so calm yourself.
6. Finally...and maybe the most important DO NOT facebook stalk your ex!!!! OMG I cant stress this one enough. If you can either block, defriend, or at least hide them from your news feed. You do not need to see pics of your ex getting wasted at a party with his arm around some unidentified skank...who could very well be prettier than you. You do not need to hear his status updates about how awesome his day was...especially if you haven't quite gotten over him yet. Unfollow his ass on twitter and any other social networking site...its for your own sanity and well being..believe me. Count your lucky stars if your ex does not have a facebook or twitter...you wont even be tempted to stalk the hell out of them for hours each day wondering if they have moved on yet.
Hopefully if you follow these rules you can get through your break up with a minimal amount of emotional scars. Breaking up is hard to do...so don't make it even harder.
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