Monday, July 26, 2010

Swiping the V-card...



Today, while on my usual blog reading routine, I came across an interesting article that made me think. I can't remember the exact title of the article but it basically asked at what age does being a virgin become a stigma. If I said to you that I lost my virginity at 12 (NOT true) you would probably look at me just as weird as if I was 25 and still a virgin (assuming I wasn't like hideously deformed or had creepy body odor). But apparently the average age that guys and girls swipe their v-card is around 17...which is very surprising to me. I feel shows like Maury and Tyra want us to think that middle schoolers all across America are getting their cherries popped on the back of school buses. I guess the reality is more along the lines of losing it in the back of the limo on prom night (cliche). With that said...at what point between figuring out what those special parts down there are for and those very parts shriveling up is it deemed acceptable to enter the world of sex. The truth is...the answer is different for guys and girls. For a guy...be the first one of the homies to get his Willie wet and you are the man. Pretty much..the sooner you lose it the better. And if you do manage to make it out of high school with your virginity in tact...don't tell anyone. On the other hand..girls get a very mixed messages. Do it to young or be the first of your friends to lose it...you become the town hoe and wait to late and people are gonna think that you are 1.a prude 2. REALLY ugly or 3. that you have accepted Jesus Christ as your lord and savior and your virginity is strictly for your future husband. But nine times out of ten...those are never the real answers because its ALOT more complicated than that...for girls at least. We are taught that our virginity is our virtue and we should cherish it and all that bullsh*t but in the same breathe we are encouraged to sexualize ourselves in an effort to attract guys. So here we are...one walking contradiction. Girls dressed in short shorts and tight shirts holding tightly to our "virtues" for fear of getting a bad reputation. But I could talk about THAT subject all day and how fair it is. The real point is that I remember clearly having the "are you a virgin talk" with people on several different occasions over the years and in the beginning people would proudly proclaim that they were virgins...but eventually you could tell who the virgins were because they were quite with shame. When did that happen?

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